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When Babies Fall Down

In Inspirational, Motivational, Philosophy on October 1, 2013 at 12:06 am

Since having a child, I’m not sure if he’s learned more from me or me from him. Two weeks after his first birthday he’s making it around the house by either crawling or walking with the aid of whatever furniture is nearby. Earlier today he and I were in my office room. I took a break and pulled him from his bouncer to let him explore and play. After we shared a few laughs he crawled toward the desk, grabbed ahold and balanced himself to his feet. In his excitement he turned around toward the bouncer and began to move in its direction. He quickly lost balance and fell on his butt. Whenever he falls I am sure to not make a big deal of it and I let him recover on his own (if he’s not hurt of course). This time I observed his response a little closer than usual out of pure curiosity. What profound lessons I find in many of his most innocence basic actions. When he fell (within arm’s reach of me) he instinctively knew what to do. After the initial shock of the fall was absorbed by his diaper padded baby butt, he tensed his body to keep from falling completely flat while balancing out a stable seated position. He then immediately reached for the desk that he was last holding, grabbed it and quickly rose back to his feet.

How powerful is this simple act that he’ll never remember? We all fall. The question is what do we do after the initial shock? The first thing he did was to stop the fall from progressing with all the power he had. He didn’t give up and allow himself to end up flat and motionless. In fact he never stopped moving. I also found it interesting that my son did not look to me for help. He paid me no attention and did not wait to be rescued. Without time to think he grabbed a hold of the last thing he knew to be solid. No time was wasted crying, complaining about being on his butt or blaming his feeble legs for failing him. He didn’t pout to gain pity from anyone or accept the fallen position as final. He just got back up and continued to focus on where he was trying to go in the first place.

                                       

                                        Thanks for reading   –Javis White of Seekers House.

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Inspiration or Excuse?

In Inspirational, Metaphysics, Mind Power, Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help on September 8, 2013 at 5:21 pm

 

     Today I received a call from a close friend of mine named Shawn. During our conversion he revealed to me some unpleasant circumstances that have arisen in his life recently taking him by surprise. We discussed several different ways to view the situation as well as exploring the metaphysics involved. At one point, my friend said to me that years ago he would have used this situation as an excuse. 
     Most people have goals, dreams, and experiences they would like to see become reality. Often times what stands in between themselves and what they want are excuses. As we spoke a man came to mind whose story inspired me since I first read his book, “The Pursuit of Happyness”. This man’s name is Chris Gardner and he is currently the multimillionaire CEO of Gardner Rich & Co. At any giving time in his journey to become a world-class investment manager he could have given in. He could have chosen any excuse, such as being unemployed, having no schooling, being the only minority, being a single parent, or being homeless and having sleep in public restrooms at night with his young son. But instead of using his unfortunate situations as excuses, Mr. Gardner harvested the energy of them and used it as his motivation to succeed over the fierce competition.
     We must realize that we have a choice. The most important part of any situation is how we react to it, learn from it or overcome it. We all go through unpleasant situations. Some of us undergo poverty, abandonment, sexual abuse, belittling, traumatic events, racism, bigotry, and discrimination. Can I just say “that’s life”? Rest assured that you are not the only one going through something. However, you are the only one that can take your misfortune and use it as a reason to grow, become something better, break harmful family cycles, assist others and provide solutions. So when it’s all said and done, what is your decision; inspiration or excuse? 
Thanks for reading -Javis White of Seeker’s House

 

Get Nervous. It’s Good for the soul.

In Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help, Uncategorized on September 1, 2013 at 1:56 pm

When was the last time you felt nervous? I mean truly nervous? Do you remember? Was it recent? Perhaps you have to go back a few years, or even to childhood. Maybe it was your first dance performance or solo in church. Maybe it was standing up to a bully or talking to a girl or boy that you liked. I specifically asked about childhood because that’s naturally the time in which most things are new to us. These new and often exciting experiences call for us to go beyond our comfort zones resulting in feelings of nervousness. But why would we want to be nervous? Why should we want this feeling?

The reason you may want to feel nervous from time to time is quite simple. In fact, I bet you already know it. First however, I feel I must clarify what nervousness is and is not. Nervous (as I use it here) is not the same as worry or anxiety. Those feelings are fear based and are usually associated with thoughts of dread concerning future events. Fear based emotions always deal with the negative views of what we don’t want, don’t desire and don’t wish to experience. This is not nervousness. Nervousness is the uneasy feeling you get when you start to actually and actively approach the things in life that you want, desire and wish to experience.

So if you haven’t figured it out yet, we love nervousness because nervousness is a side effect of purposely expanding your life into new realms of possibility. This is the same as growth. This is the same as living. Whenever a creature ceases to grow, at that very moment it begins to die. If you haven’t felt nervous in the last 2 years, 12 years, or 20 years, then that is most likely the point where you stopped living and began the downward descent into stagnation. If it’s on your heart I encourage you this day to enter that contest, sign up for those lessons, go talk to that person, or do whatever you know you want to do. Win, lose or draw you will be living again. The last thing you want at your death bed is the regret of the meaningful things that you wish you had done. Get nervous. It’s good for the soul.

  Thanks for reading   –Javis White of Seekers House.

How I Live without TV… it’s OK. Don’t Panic.

In Metaphysics, Mind Power, Motivational, Philosophy on August 11, 2013 at 4:13 pm
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I chose to be abnormal after I saw what passes for normal.

“Well what do you do if you don’t watch TV?” I was asked this question yesterday in a conversation. This was not the first time that I have answered that question, just the most recent. Apparently, it’s quite odd in this day and age to not have a television, or to choose to not watch one daily. Over the years several people have made me clearly aware of this. I have truly seen looks of suppressed horror on the faces of some people without the capability to fathom life without the box. To be fair, I suppose if TV gave me my favorite teams, daily heroes and sheroes, villains and companions for these many years, I would value it also. If TV had always suggested to me what I should eat, wear, drive, listen to, think and fear, I would too feel a bit lost just at the thought of its absence.

    To be clear, I am in no way stating here that all people who watch TV are brainless idiots, as I am fairly certain that is not the case. Here is some food for thought however. Imagine with me that while you sleep tonight, every television in your home disappears, along with the cable boxes, satellites, remotes and all accessories. The cable company and your insurance will need a month to replace anything and you don’t have the money to do it yourself. Honestly, ask yourself how this would make you feel? Would you feel as if a part of you has died, or would you simply go on doing the other things you have already been doing in life? The feelings that surface will provide clues as to if you have an unhealthy dependency on your TV.

     Now to answer the question “what do I do if I don’t watch TV.”? When I’m not watching a television with every second of my free time, I’m actually doing real life stuff. Let’s look at reality. When 99% of people watch TV, they consider it doing something when it’s much closer to doing nothing. At best you’re just sitting there and at worse you’re lying in bed eating. Either way most people are completely stationery often for hours on end. To make things worse, the official foods (and I use that term loosely) of television is anything classified as junk. This is also a good time for many to drink and smoke whatever they choose. For me, spending time like this does nothing to bring me closer to my personal goals and aspirations. Isn’t that what life is really about?

I see it now as a tremendous blessing that we could not afford cable television growing up. There’s no telling where I would be if I had not spent time developing my mind, imagination and creativity with that time I may have ended up giving to the boob tube. As a kid I did feel a bit out of touch with pop culture, not seeing the latest shows and music videos, but I did not become programmed into believing that TV “programs” had any bearing on real life. I remember friends with nothing going on in their own lives sit and watch reality shows of other people living life. That type of mind numbing garbage didn’t then, and still doesn’t make sense to me. I instead started getting into mind stimulating books, worked jobs and made money, developed my creative skills and worked hard on becoming a better me.

     In closing, as an adult I have had cable twice (usually in an Internet bundle) and I enjoyed a few “educational” channels and maybe a hand full of other shows. I have no TV now and it does not bother me one bit because I am the most productive this way. If I need to see something that bad, there’s always the Internet. With my time now I read, love my beautiful wife and baby boy, and create artwork and computer graphics. I wake up early to reach my personal deadlines of completing the books I write, for which I also do the photography, layout, logo design and cover art. I build websites, computers and make the most awesome YouTube videos. I educate myself, blog, learn to cook vegetarian foods, pet my Doberman, lead a local metaphysics group and have deep conversations with close friends. Amongst other things, I also write articles like the one you’re reading now. I do this all the time. My life is full of meaningful activities and interactions with meaningful people. I live on the cutting edge of new thought and experience. I live with purpose. I am truly alive. 

Thanks for reading –Javis White of Seeker’s House

The Saddest Thing in the World

In Metaphysics, Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help on August 3, 2013 at 11:14 pm
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The saddest thing in the world is something that happens to many of us most of the time. No it’s not the loss of a dear family member, some criminal action, or anything you would see in a trending news story. The saddest thing transcends age, gender, geography, and racial and political divide. Every human being, every second of every day decides to participate in this sadness or not. What is it you ask? Well the basis can be summed up as not living all of the life that you can now in exchange for always worrying about goals of the distant future… I’ll explain.

      A while ago, I briefly worked on a certain project with an older gentleman. My job this particular day was to inspect a parking lot that was being constructed. As I worked, this man stayed with me and started a conversation. He talked of marriage and children and gave me advice in the areas that he felt most passionate about. One thing he made sure to engrain in me was a hard lesson that took him many years to learn. He has three adult sons and he explained how he worked a lot of overtime hours throughout the years to provide for them and “get ahead in life”. What little free time he did get was usually spent with his old buddies, either hunting or fishing. He said before he knew it, the oldest two boys had grown up and he missed it. This was his life’s biggest regret and since then he had made peace with those two sons and became the best possible father he could for the remainder of his youngest son’s childhood. He decided to be completely present and enjoy every moment spent with him.

      I used the story above only as an example. The saddest thing in the world comes into play when we engage in any activity, whether it be parenting or eating a sandwich. The sad part is not truly enjoying the fullness of what life brings moment by moment because we’re always planning to do it “one day when…” or “as soon as”. I’m not saying that we should abandon any hope for living better tomorrow; the key is however, to live along the way. We don’t have to put off living or rely on a fantasy existence. How often do we complain about things we once took pleasure in (jobs, people, etc)? How come new-comers can appreciate beauty around us that we no longer see? It’s not in what we see but how we see. A simple light bulb is a beautiful work of art to a man who has never known electricity. 

     Because we are alive, each moment has immense beauty within it for those with eyes to see. My life changed once my consciousness elevated high enough to receive the truth in this concept. This may even sound a bit silly to some, but it is as simple as taking the time to concentrate on enjoying a lunch instead of rushing through it while pondering the unpleasant chores that await you. If the chores will be there anyway, why not just pack the best lunch you can and enjoy it like it’s your last meal? Perhaps we should keep in mind the fact that we don’t actually know which meal is our last meal. I hope you understand the philosophy behind what I’m saying here. 

     If what you have read so far resonates with you, why not do yourself a favor and run with it. I guarantee you will open a doorway to happiness and enjoyment that few people will ever find. People will notice a difference in you as has happened with me. With so many people not making the decision to enjoy the now, it’s no wonder families fall apart and people secretly dope up on anti-depression and anxiety drugs. This way of life has returns that exceed the value of money and last forever. Begin by questioning how much you enjoy and appreciate the people, things and situations in your life right now. Make it a point to deeply enjoy as much as possible as often as you can, every hour of everyday. When spending time with your children do they know that you have left the office at the office and they have all of you as a parent? Do you feel you have to date your significant other or that you get to date them? When was the last time your spouse had 100% of your attention? Do they even know what that feels like? Do you? Often time this is all our loved ones ever want from us.

      Whenever I see a luxury convertible with a retired elderly couple in it, I hope to myself that they didn’t let 65, 70, or 75 years of their life pass before they started to enjoy it. A retirement at that age should only be icing on the cake of a long life well lived, and not a last minute escape from day to day misery. How sad is it to let the miracle of life pass us by while we have our backs turned looking for it.

     Happiness begets happiness and more happy situations. Appreciating the beauty in every moment and situation is a simple decision that costs no money but yields unfathomable returns. The choice is yours. Will you continue to sacrifice your continually present existence for an unpromised dream of one day having it all? Or will you decide to truly embrace and enjoy this very moment? The wise realize that time is merely an illusion and the present is indeed the only time we can ever exist in. I challenge you to make up your mind. Join in the living of today. We know that tomorrow is not promised and even when it does come, we call it today.

                                                                        Javis White of Seekers House. Thanks for reading.

Are Your Friends Poison? 5 Revealing Questions

In Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help on July 13, 2013 at 1:51 am

 

There’s a wise old saying that says you can see someone’s future by looking at the company they keep. For the most part, you are headed in the same direction as the people that you decide to spend your time with. If all of your friends wish to settle for a modest, mediocre existence, then you probably will too. If your friends, on the other hand, only expect and except the finest in life then you will too. The same can and will be seen with having friends who are criminals, sports fanatics or wealthy entrepreneurs. There are some exceptions to the rules, but generally speaking, “like attracts like”.
One exception to the rule can be seen in moments of growth and changes in consciousness. You may realize in times like these that you and your friends are no longer going in the same direction. The path is coming to a fork, and the path that you want to take leads to higher uncharted lands that your friends have little or no interest in exploring. To be more precise, this is actually just a time delay of the attraction used to draw those friends in the beginning.
 
Some friends really do stick closer than a brother and will be there through out life’s up and downs with your best interest in mind. Keep these friends. Only a few of them come in a lifetime.  Be that kind of friend in return. On the other hand, some friends (here I use the term lightly) don’t deserve to stand on your property, let alone be in your life. If you find it somewhat complicated to decipher what quality of friends you have, maybe these few points will be of assistance.
 
Is there a mutual love and respect between you?
To most women a feeling of love may be more important, while men usually lean more toward respect. The point however is the same. Do both you and your friends give and receive the same level of both? If your friendship constantly includes you being belittled and made to feel like a lesser partner, this should be a red flag. Someone who wants you around to point out your flaws and make themselves look better has deep seeded self-esteem and self acceptance issues. To these types, you may secretly be less of a friend and more of a sidekick or object of comedy relief.
 
Is this person there when life gets ugly?
In the really hard times poisonous friends tend to stop taking your calls, pretend to not know you, or talk ill about you to others. None but the best of friends will be there when you have nothing to give them. If you were broke, homeless and unemployed tomorrow without warning, name ten people who would try to do something to help you bounce back. Whether it’s giving up a sofa for you or taking kids to school while you job hunt, you probably already have a good idea of who really cares for you.

Can I trust this person with anything?
I may sound a little extreme with this one, but feel that a friend in the truest since of the word should be completely trust worthy. There will always be situations out of his or her control, (e.g. your car is stolen in his possession or her laptop destroyed your favorite movie) but for the most part you should feel confident this person would never intentionally betray you or be negligent with your possessions. A revealing sign of a true friend is someone who is quick to take responsibility when they feel they have wronged you and they take action to restore the situation. This rare type of person will usually value personal integrity above getting over on people even if undetected. 
 
Will this friend tell me the truth when it hurts? 
Faithful are the wounds of a friend. Value anyone in your life who cares enough for you to tell you bitter truth when you need to, but least want to hear it. The worst kind of poison taste sweet and is smooth going down. Anyone in your circle who knowingly watches you fall (be it to life destroying addictions, habits, mental hang ups) and does nothing should be dropped quickly. Some people will even go as far as to enjoy the ride that is your demise. These kind of snakes will watch you lose your house to gambling and then go with you to Vegas. If you have anger issues, they will provoke a situation to see how far it goes. It is best to realize quickly that these friends are dangerous and strictly self invested. Any person in your life that will not hesitate to be honest with you values your life, well being and future more than your temporary feelings.
 
Would this friend hold me back for their own benefit?
These kind of poison friends can be a bit tricky to spot, but they are certainty worth identifying. This type of person pretends to want to see you advance in life, but secretly fears losing you in some way. This can be played out by a friend convincing you to choose the worst of two schools because it’s closer to them. They may promote negative ideas about your romantic interest to prevent you from marrying and therefore moving into a new stage of your life without them. These kind of people may not exactly mean to harm you, but they have insecurities within themselves that can place you in the cross-hairs. Often with close friends, sudden or great progress on the behalf of one will tend to shine a spot light in that area of the other. For many this is too much to bear. These friends are needy and therefore may be the hardest to see go. These people operate from selfishness so don’t you get tricked into feeling selfish for moving on.
 
Hopefully you can now better detect the wolves among the sheep in your circles. And also, why not take a moment today to let a few of your tried and true friends know that you appreciate them?
 
Thanks for reading -Javis White Seeker’sHouse.com

 

Expert Advice Can Drive You Crazy!

In Metaphysics, Mind Power, Motivational, Philosophy, Religion, Self Help, Uncategorized on June 28, 2013 at 11:51 pm

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In America, many of us believe that if a person has a “PhD” behind his or her name or a “Dr.” in front of it, they’re an expert. An expert in what you may ask? Well in anything… It’s frowned upon to disobey the doctor. In school you will be exiled for questioning the accuracy of a PhD’s version of history, the basis of the PhD composed curriculum or even the lunch items served as determined by a select group of nutrition PhDs.
Well, what’s wrong with all of these doctor and “expert” recommendations? After all, don’t they know more than us? Shouldn’t we trust them to tell us what to eat? Shouldn’t we drink fluoride in our tap water because they say it’s good for us? And shouldn’t we believe Columbus discovered a continent with millions of people already living on it and evidence of visits from other cultures? Okay yeah, I’m joking a bit with the last one… Well, sort of. Having worked many years in the construction sciences, I have several friends with PhD’s in the civil engineering and geotechnical fields. I would call them in a heartbeat if I needed to know the specific gravity of a 4000 pound per sq. inch slab core. But I’m not fond of calling “experts” to tell me how to live my life and to blindly follow. In the technical design of a building, the numbers either work, or a wall starts to crack. Either way, the proof is obvious and no one usually gets hurt. When it comes to people telling you what to do with your life however, the results may not be obvious, and you’re always the one that stands to get hurt. Do you remember doctors in the 1950’s advertising for cigarettes which they then considered safe? (I’ve even heard stories from older men of how the doctor would examine them with a lit cigarette in his mouth…)
My point is that experts have their place. The information they provide can be extremely useful on the path to being knowledgeable to make our own decisions that work for us. We can allow expert advice to drive us crazy when we don’t understand that not all advice works for everyone, and not all of this advice is accurate and without bias. This is easily proven when you look at the fact that experts often times don’t agree with other experts on the same subject. Even getting a second option from another physician can yield two completely different medical diagnoses. Experts debate each other regularly, challenge each other, and some even disprove and denounce their own long held beliefs.
It’s okay to think, question and challenge. I often find that the best way to make informed decisions is to consider the most obvious popular advice, then find and study several findings that state the exact opposite or something completely different. You will usually end up with a much more complete and balanced view. For example, I grew up eating and drinking a lot of dairy. Back when I drunk cow’s milk my body suffered and did not handle it well. Yet still the “experts” who created the food pyramid recommended I drink a glass with every meal. If I blindly took their advice instead of doing my own additional research, I would have never known that people can live well past one hundred healthy years without drinking milk from an animal. I would have needlessly suffered and probably would have been clearing out rooms left and right (if you know what I mean).
Frankly, I don’t know how we got so comfortable relying on other people tell us what to do. How much of this just stems from the laziness of not wanting to do what it takes to gain knowledge (i.e. research) ourselves? How much of it is a fear of challenging authority that was deeply ingrained in us from childhood by our governments, religious institutions and schools? And who benefits the most from all of this expect advice anyway? It almost seems to be people, groups and agencies in every direction telling us what to do and not to do. It is difficult for me to believe that these groups all have my best interest at heart and not the best interest of their wallets and personal agendas.
With any advice however, a red flag should pop up around anyone who desires to plant a seed of fear in you to get you to do what they tell you to do. Government agencies, news outlets, and many religious sects have long been experts at these kinds of scare tactics. Remember however that installing fear and nurturing ignorance is the recipe for control. The more personal knowledge you have pertaining to important life issues the more freedom you will experience.
You were born with a brain for a reason. Do you really believe it was to have someone else do all of your thinking? Clear rational thought and consideration leads to better decisions than those made quickly in the midst of fear and panic. Let us stop taking everything we watch on television or read in a magazine as the gospel truth. This is indeed the quickest way to drive yourself crazy.

Javis White of Seekers House. Thanks for reading.

God Defined

In Metaphysics, Philosophy, Religion on June 6, 2013 at 8:52 am

Our language often creates confusion when it comes to the very concepts that we attempt to express using that language. People fight wars over their “gods” and take on various titles such as atheist, theist, and agnostic. Not to mention the scores of religions with their own specific view of god. The problem comes when we began to define god. A quick Google search will pull up Merriam-Webster’s definition. This definition is really a series of definitions which denotes a deference in the definition of god when used capitalized or by a Christian Scientist. In various parts of the definition, a god requires human worship. God can be a spirit or just an infinite mind. Things get even more interesting when we see that god can be defined as a person or thing of supreme value, or a powerful ruler. Does this make certain people, dictators and politicians gods? And for “supreme value”, doesn’t value depend on who’s doing the appraising?

The truth is, two people can say that they believe in god. They will both be pleased in their bond as theists unless they realize that they mean two different things when it comes to god. A Jewish person may believe god is Yahweh, a deity characterized by blood sacrifice, wrath and envy (according to the scripture). A Muslim person might determine that a Jew does not believe in god because god is Allah, a god as equally vengeful with an eternal need to be worshiped. Yet still a Christian will likely consider Allah to be false and the Jew’s Yahweh to be outdated; claiming that Jesus is god, a Holy Spirit is god, and God is god, but they (he) no longer goes by Yahwah. In non-scriptural views, hermetic philosophy might define god as everything that is (sometimes called the All). To a Wiccan, god might include both male and female energy. And a metaphysician might define god as pure energy. This is a bit of a stretch. From the almost human-like god described in Exodus as “a man of war” named Yahweh, to the very energy that is primal and existing in every bit of the universe; what god is depends on who’s asking and who’s telling.

Javis White of Seekers House. Thanks for reading.