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Inspiration or Excuse?

In Inspirational, Metaphysics, Mind Power, Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help on September 8, 2013 at 5:21 pm


     Today I received a call from a close friend of mine named Shawn. During our conversion he revealed to me some unpleasant circumstances that have arisen in his life recently taking him by surprise. We discussed several different ways to view the situation as well as exploring the metaphysics involved. At one point, my friend said to me that years ago he would have used this situation as an excuse. 
     Most people have goals, dreams, and experiences they would like to see become reality. Often times what stands in between themselves and what they want are excuses. As we spoke a man came to mind whose story inspired me since I first read his book, “The Pursuit of Happyness”. This man’s name is Chris Gardner and he is currently the multimillionaire CEO of Gardner Rich & Co. At any giving time in his journey to become a world-class investment manager he could have given in. He could have chosen any excuse, such as being unemployed, having no schooling, being the only minority, being a single parent, or being homeless and having sleep in public restrooms at night with his young son. But instead of using his unfortunate situations as excuses, Mr. Gardner harvested the energy of them and used it as his motivation to succeed over the fierce competition.
     We must realize that we have a choice. The most important part of any situation is how we react to it, learn from it or overcome it. We all go through unpleasant situations. Some of us undergo poverty, abandonment, sexual abuse, belittling, traumatic events, racism, bigotry, and discrimination. Can I just say “that’s life”? Rest assured that you are not the only one going through something. However, you are the only one that can take your misfortune and use it as a reason to grow, become something better, break harmful family cycles, assist others and provide solutions. So when it’s all said and done, what is your decision; inspiration or excuse? 
Thanks for reading -Javis White of Seeker’s House



Get Nervous. It’s Good for the soul.

In Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help, Uncategorized on September 1, 2013 at 1:56 pm

When was the last time you felt nervous? I mean truly nervous? Do you remember? Was it recent? Perhaps you have to go back a few years, or even to childhood. Maybe it was your first dance performance or solo in church. Maybe it was standing up to a bully or talking to a girl or boy that you liked. I specifically asked about childhood because that’s naturally the time in which most things are new to us. These new and often exciting experiences call for us to go beyond our comfort zones resulting in feelings of nervousness. But why would we want to be nervous? Why should we want this feeling?

The reason you may want to feel nervous from time to time is quite simple. In fact, I bet you already know it. First however, I feel I must clarify what nervousness is and is not. Nervous (as I use it here) is not the same as worry or anxiety. Those feelings are fear based and are usually associated with thoughts of dread concerning future events. Fear based emotions always deal with the negative views of what we don’t want, don’t desire and don’t wish to experience. This is not nervousness. Nervousness is the uneasy feeling you get when you start to actually and actively approach the things in life that you want, desire and wish to experience.

So if you haven’t figured it out yet, we love nervousness because nervousness is a side effect of purposely expanding your life into new realms of possibility. This is the same as growth. This is the same as living. Whenever a creature ceases to grow, at that very moment it begins to die. If you haven’t felt nervous in the last 2 years, 12 years, or 20 years, then that is most likely the point where you stopped living and began the downward descent into stagnation. If it’s on your heart I encourage you this day to enter that contest, sign up for those lessons, go talk to that person, or do whatever you know you want to do. Win, lose or draw you will be living again. The last thing you want at your death bed is the regret of the meaningful things that you wish you had done. Get nervous. It’s good for the soul.

  Thanks for reading   –Javis White of Seekers House.

Vision Boards 102 -How Real Can It Get?

In Metaphysics, Mind Power, Motivational, Self Help on August 13, 2013 at 10:00 pm

This second section pertaining to the art of using vision boards goes further into the use of creativity to achieve a much deeper impression of our goals and desires into both our conscious and subconscious minds. These techniques may be better able to help those who have difficulty with mental envisioning. Also the techniques we will discuss will prove to be much more engaging and ‘real’. And I trust that those who are a bit more artistically inclined will enjoy the creative freedom and involvement required.
How real can it get? A vision board in all actuality is nothing more than a bunch of pictures. With this being so, a great deal of imagination is required to move past the obvious. This worked for me however. I am a very visual person with endless imagination, and I have manifested the most amazing things (and situations) over the years using vision boards. I do however; realize that some people have talents and ability placed in other areas that will work better for them. Either way, one thing to remember is; if the process of capturing and creating your visions does not build up some level of happiness and excitement in and of itself, you need to reconsider what you actually want in life. The envisioning process will never work if you try to force yourself to want something that does not resonate with who you really are.
Concept #1 Getting real. For most people here on earth, nothing is more real than 3-D reality. Imagine having pictures on your vision board that don’t come from magazines, but instead real-life situations that you were a part of. Stay with me now. You may be thinking, “How can I have a picture of something that does not yet exist?” But the truth is that most of the things we want do currently exist. If not the concept does. If you would like to manifest 67 Corvette for example, these already exist. In fact, they have existed since 1967. Because they already exist this car is something that you can find somewhere in real life. Even though you may not yet be able to afford this kind of vehicle, the idea of the “advanced vision board” is to find this car and create memories, experience and visions with the desired object. Imagine how easy it is to imagine having a car while looking at pictures or video of you actually driving the car! Get it? A car dealer will most likely insist you take the car for a spin. Is the kind of house you want for sale somewhere? Is your type of computer already on a shelf store? Find it if at all possible and make visions from real life. There are no set rules. You can even use Photoshop if you want too! The key is to create something that can help you have extremely realistic positive feelings of already having it.
Concept #2 Use your talents. A true artist (of any kind) pours a piece of him or herself into their work. This is what brings the work to life and gives it an energy that multiples and extends to other. This second concept takes that idea and applies it to manifesting. Let’s say you are a visual artist who regularly takes time to, and enjoys creating beautiful artwork. You may be better able to create the feeling of having by depicting this in your work. The very process of you pouring your creative energy into it will “charge” the work, thus deeply embedding the concept into the subconscious. Hanging these pieces where you would regularly see them would assist in keeping you at the matching vibration required to manifest (remember like attracts likes). It is important however to always depict yourself having and not obtaining. A skilled writer that desires to lose weight may journal about the fun new activities he is now able to do with his redesigned slimmer physique. He may choose to read it before dwelling on an image representing weight loss. Anyway that you can use your talents to assist you reaching your goals should be considered. What are you creative enough to imagine and make that will place you in the vibration of having?
Concept #3 Control the vibe. For those who are more auditory, as compared to visionary, controlling the vibes may be your thing. By vibes, I am referring to vibrations picked up by our ears in the form of music, sound, and other audio. People who tend to have a deep love of music are able to connect with the energy it contains. Some music has a peaceful loving vibration, while others may be harsh, angry and even violent. You may already have music that puts you in a vibration high enough to manifest certain things. For example, you may have a desire to eat at a certain 5-star restaurant in town. You may already own some of the classical music that they will play in such an establishment. Listening to this music while envisioning yourself at the dinner table will do wonders for increasing the reality in your imagining. Just imagine the sense of magic you would feel should you happen to hear these actual songs while eating in that restaurant one day! Wouldn’t island music certainly put you in the mood to better imagine yourself on that Caribbean cruise ship?… Or French music in manifesting the trip to Paris? If it helps keep you in the vibration, do it.
I can’t forget to tell you to always pay attention to your feelings and use them as a measuring stick. Never create anything, use any image or listen to anything that will cause you to feel a lack of something. This is counterproductive. If you would like to attract a mate, love music that causes you to feel the lack of a mate will only help you manifest the lack of a mate.
I hope that you now have a broader understanding of the concept of the vision board and can see how to bring yourself closer to all the experiences, people and objects you desire and need to live life in its full abundance.

                                Thanks for reading   Javis White of Seekers House.

The Saddest Thing in the World

In Metaphysics, Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help on August 3, 2013 at 11:14 pm
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The saddest thing in the world is something that happens to many of us most of the time. No it’s not the loss of a dear family member, some criminal action, or anything you would see in a trending news story. The saddest thing transcends age, gender, geography, and racial and political divide. Every human being, every second of every day decides to participate in this sadness or not. What is it you ask? Well the basis can be summed up as not living all of the life that you can now in exchange for always worrying about goals of the distant future… I’ll explain.

      A while ago, I briefly worked on a certain project with an older gentleman. My job this particular day was to inspect a parking lot that was being constructed. As I worked, this man stayed with me and started a conversation. He talked of marriage and children and gave me advice in the areas that he felt most passionate about. One thing he made sure to engrain in me was a hard lesson that took him many years to learn. He has three adult sons and he explained how he worked a lot of overtime hours throughout the years to provide for them and “get ahead in life”. What little free time he did get was usually spent with his old buddies, either hunting or fishing. He said before he knew it, the oldest two boys had grown up and he missed it. This was his life’s biggest regret and since then he had made peace with those two sons and became the best possible father he could for the remainder of his youngest son’s childhood. He decided to be completely present and enjoy every moment spent with him.

      I used the story above only as an example. The saddest thing in the world comes into play when we engage in any activity, whether it be parenting or eating a sandwich. The sad part is not truly enjoying the fullness of what life brings moment by moment because we’re always planning to do it “one day when…” or “as soon as”. I’m not saying that we should abandon any hope for living better tomorrow; the key is however, to live along the way. We don’t have to put off living or rely on a fantasy existence. How often do we complain about things we once took pleasure in (jobs, people, etc)? How come new-comers can appreciate beauty around us that we no longer see? It’s not in what we see but how we see. A simple light bulb is a beautiful work of art to a man who has never known electricity. 

     Because we are alive, each moment has immense beauty within it for those with eyes to see. My life changed once my consciousness elevated high enough to receive the truth in this concept. This may even sound a bit silly to some, but it is as simple as taking the time to concentrate on enjoying a lunch instead of rushing through it while pondering the unpleasant chores that await you. If the chores will be there anyway, why not just pack the best lunch you can and enjoy it like it’s your last meal? Perhaps we should keep in mind the fact that we don’t actually know which meal is our last meal. I hope you understand the philosophy behind what I’m saying here. 

     If what you have read so far resonates with you, why not do yourself a favor and run with it. I guarantee you will open a doorway to happiness and enjoyment that few people will ever find. People will notice a difference in you as has happened with me. With so many people not making the decision to enjoy the now, it’s no wonder families fall apart and people secretly dope up on anti-depression and anxiety drugs. This way of life has returns that exceed the value of money and last forever. Begin by questioning how much you enjoy and appreciate the people, things and situations in your life right now. Make it a point to deeply enjoy as much as possible as often as you can, every hour of everyday. When spending time with your children do they know that you have left the office at the office and they have all of you as a parent? Do you feel you have to date your significant other or that you get to date them? When was the last time your spouse had 100% of your attention? Do they even know what that feels like? Do you? Often time this is all our loved ones ever want from us.

      Whenever I see a luxury convertible with a retired elderly couple in it, I hope to myself that they didn’t let 65, 70, or 75 years of their life pass before they started to enjoy it. A retirement at that age should only be icing on the cake of a long life well lived, and not a last minute escape from day to day misery. How sad is it to let the miracle of life pass us by while we have our backs turned looking for it.

     Happiness begets happiness and more happy situations. Appreciating the beauty in every moment and situation is a simple decision that costs no money but yields unfathomable returns. The choice is yours. Will you continue to sacrifice your continually present existence for an unpromised dream of one day having it all? Or will you decide to truly embrace and enjoy this very moment? The wise realize that time is merely an illusion and the present is indeed the only time we can ever exist in. I challenge you to make up your mind. Join in the living of today. We know that tomorrow is not promised and even when it does come, we call it today.

                                                                        Javis White of Seekers House. Thanks for reading.

Are Your Friends Poison? 5 Revealing Questions

In Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help on July 13, 2013 at 1:51 am


There’s a wise old saying that says you can see someone’s future by looking at the company they keep. For the most part, you are headed in the same direction as the people that you decide to spend your time with. If all of your friends wish to settle for a modest, mediocre existence, then you probably will too. If your friends, on the other hand, only expect and except the finest in life then you will too. The same can and will be seen with having friends who are criminals, sports fanatics or wealthy entrepreneurs. There are some exceptions to the rules, but generally speaking, “like attracts like”.
One exception to the rule can be seen in moments of growth and changes in consciousness. You may realize in times like these that you and your friends are no longer going in the same direction. The path is coming to a fork, and the path that you want to take leads to higher uncharted lands that your friends have little or no interest in exploring. To be more precise, this is actually just a time delay of the attraction used to draw those friends in the beginning.
Some friends really do stick closer than a brother and will be there through out life’s up and downs with your best interest in mind. Keep these friends. Only a few of them come in a lifetime.  Be that kind of friend in return. On the other hand, some friends (here I use the term lightly) don’t deserve to stand on your property, let alone be in your life. If you find it somewhat complicated to decipher what quality of friends you have, maybe these few points will be of assistance.
Is there a mutual love and respect between you?
To most women a feeling of love may be more important, while men usually lean more toward respect. The point however is the same. Do both you and your friends give and receive the same level of both? If your friendship constantly includes you being belittled and made to feel like a lesser partner, this should be a red flag. Someone who wants you around to point out your flaws and make themselves look better has deep seeded self-esteem and self acceptance issues. To these types, you may secretly be less of a friend and more of a sidekick or object of comedy relief.
Is this person there when life gets ugly?
In the really hard times poisonous friends tend to stop taking your calls, pretend to not know you, or talk ill about you to others. None but the best of friends will be there when you have nothing to give them. If you were broke, homeless and unemployed tomorrow without warning, name ten people who would try to do something to help you bounce back. Whether it’s giving up a sofa for you or taking kids to school while you job hunt, you probably already have a good idea of who really cares for you.

Can I trust this person with anything?
I may sound a little extreme with this one, but feel that a friend in the truest since of the word should be completely trust worthy. There will always be situations out of his or her control, (e.g. your car is stolen in his possession or her laptop destroyed your favorite movie) but for the most part you should feel confident this person would never intentionally betray you or be negligent with your possessions. A revealing sign of a true friend is someone who is quick to take responsibility when they feel they have wronged you and they take action to restore the situation. This rare type of person will usually value personal integrity above getting over on people even if undetected. 
Will this friend tell me the truth when it hurts? 
Faithful are the wounds of a friend. Value anyone in your life who cares enough for you to tell you bitter truth when you need to, but least want to hear it. The worst kind of poison taste sweet and is smooth going down. Anyone in your circle who knowingly watches you fall (be it to life destroying addictions, habits, mental hang ups) and does nothing should be dropped quickly. Some people will even go as far as to enjoy the ride that is your demise. These kind of snakes will watch you lose your house to gambling and then go with you to Vegas. If you have anger issues, they will provoke a situation to see how far it goes. It is best to realize quickly that these friends are dangerous and strictly self invested. Any person in your life that will not hesitate to be honest with you values your life, well being and future more than your temporary feelings.
Would this friend hold me back for their own benefit?
These kind of poison friends can be a bit tricky to spot, but they are certainty worth identifying. This type of person pretends to want to see you advance in life, but secretly fears losing you in some way. This can be played out by a friend convincing you to choose the worst of two schools because it’s closer to them. They may promote negative ideas about your romantic interest to prevent you from marrying and therefore moving into a new stage of your life without them. These kind of people may not exactly mean to harm you, but they have insecurities within themselves that can place you in the cross-hairs. Often with close friends, sudden or great progress on the behalf of one will tend to shine a spot light in that area of the other. For many this is too much to bear. These friends are needy and therefore may be the hardest to see go. These people operate from selfishness so don’t you get tricked into feeling selfish for moving on.
Hopefully you can now better detect the wolves among the sheep in your circles. And also, why not take a moment today to let a few of your tried and true friends know that you appreciate them?
Thanks for reading -Javis White Seeker’


Expert Advice Can Drive You Crazy!

In Metaphysics, Mind Power, Motivational, Philosophy, Religion, Self Help, Uncategorized on June 28, 2013 at 11:51 pm


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In America, many of us believe that if a person has a “PhD” behind his or her name or a “Dr.” in front of it, they’re an expert. An expert in what you may ask? Well in anything… It’s frowned upon to disobey the doctor. In school you will be exiled for questioning the accuracy of a PhD’s version of history, the basis of the PhD composed curriculum or even the lunch items served as determined by a select group of nutrition PhDs.
Well, what’s wrong with all of these doctor and “expert” recommendations? After all, don’t they know more than us? Shouldn’t we trust them to tell us what to eat? Shouldn’t we drink fluoride in our tap water because they say it’s good for us? And shouldn’t we believe Columbus discovered a continent with millions of people already living on it and evidence of visits from other cultures? Okay yeah, I’m joking a bit with the last one… Well, sort of. Having worked many years in the construction sciences, I have several friends with PhD’s in the civil engineering and geotechnical fields. I would call them in a heartbeat if I needed to know the specific gravity of a 4000 pound per sq. inch slab core. But I’m not fond of calling “experts” to tell me how to live my life and to blindly follow. In the technical design of a building, the numbers either work, or a wall starts to crack. Either way, the proof is obvious and no one usually gets hurt. When it comes to people telling you what to do with your life however, the results may not be obvious, and you’re always the one that stands to get hurt. Do you remember doctors in the 1950’s advertising for cigarettes which they then considered safe? (I’ve even heard stories from older men of how the doctor would examine them with a lit cigarette in his mouth…)
My point is that experts have their place. The information they provide can be extremely useful on the path to being knowledgeable to make our own decisions that work for us. We can allow expert advice to drive us crazy when we don’t understand that not all advice works for everyone, and not all of this advice is accurate and without bias. This is easily proven when you look at the fact that experts often times don’t agree with other experts on the same subject. Even getting a second option from another physician can yield two completely different medical diagnoses. Experts debate each other regularly, challenge each other, and some even disprove and denounce their own long held beliefs.
It’s okay to think, question and challenge. I often find that the best way to make informed decisions is to consider the most obvious popular advice, then find and study several findings that state the exact opposite or something completely different. You will usually end up with a much more complete and balanced view. For example, I grew up eating and drinking a lot of dairy. Back when I drunk cow’s milk my body suffered and did not handle it well. Yet still the “experts” who created the food pyramid recommended I drink a glass with every meal. If I blindly took their advice instead of doing my own additional research, I would have never known that people can live well past one hundred healthy years without drinking milk from an animal. I would have needlessly suffered and probably would have been clearing out rooms left and right (if you know what I mean).
Frankly, I don’t know how we got so comfortable relying on other people tell us what to do. How much of this just stems from the laziness of not wanting to do what it takes to gain knowledge (i.e. research) ourselves? How much of it is a fear of challenging authority that was deeply ingrained in us from childhood by our governments, religious institutions and schools? And who benefits the most from all of this expect advice anyway? It almost seems to be people, groups and agencies in every direction telling us what to do and not to do. It is difficult for me to believe that these groups all have my best interest at heart and not the best interest of their wallets and personal agendas.
With any advice however, a red flag should pop up around anyone who desires to plant a seed of fear in you to get you to do what they tell you to do. Government agencies, news outlets, and many religious sects have long been experts at these kinds of scare tactics. Remember however that installing fear and nurturing ignorance is the recipe for control. The more personal knowledge you have pertaining to important life issues the more freedom you will experience.
You were born with a brain for a reason. Do you really believe it was to have someone else do all of your thinking? Clear rational thought and consideration leads to better decisions than those made quickly in the midst of fear and panic. Let us stop taking everything we watch on television or read in a magazine as the gospel truth. This is indeed the quickest way to drive yourself crazy.

Javis White of Seekers House. Thanks for reading.

Vision Boards 101 -Playing With Scissors

In Metaphysics, Mind Power, Motivational, Self Help on January 27, 2013 at 12:00 am

Where thought goes, energy flows

     So what exactly is a vision board? What is the purpose of one, and how does it work? A vision board is typically a collage of images placed on a piece of poster board that is hung or placed somewhere where it can be easily viewed by the maker. A vision board should include pictures carefully selected to represent desired goals, material items or even concepts wished to be manifested by the maker of the vision board. These images can be cutouts from magazines, printed off the internet or taken from any printed source. Understand that the overall intention here is for the board to serve as a visual reference for what is to be manifested.
     So how exactly does it work then? Are we expected to believe that somehow just by looking at what we want it will magically appear? Well no, not exactly. In my opinion vision boards do not technically “work”. They will however stimulate the subconscious mind and assist in growing seeds that have already been planted (if properly used that is). Think of a vision board more in the sense of being a tool. The vision board alone would have the same affect as a hammer lying on the ground. It will always be the carpenter that builds the house by making good use of his tools.
    Using the vision board is where the magic comes into play. The use of “envisioning” in the process of manifesting is key. Because of this, a vision board can be affective on many levels, but I’ll briefly sum up three of the most important concepts; Intention, immersion, and imagination.
     Intention is the steering wheel to manifesting, and I’ll bet that you already have a good idea of how this concept works. The simple activity of creating a vision board requires one to have intent. All images on a vision board should be carefully selected to represent what is desired. If a person has a desire to move out of cramped apartment and purchase a house, the very process of selecting pictures that represent that goal is creating and sending out that intent to the subconscious mind and to all energies that will be involved in its development. This is the same concept that drives a child to tear the image of a bicycle that he or she wants from a toy store advertisement and tape it to the wall. I’m sure we have all done this in one form or the other, but doing so clarifies and strengthens the intent.
     Immersion results from being able to step inside of the vision. Just by creating a vision board and placing it somewhere highly visible this will happen to some degree on a daily basis. A dancer whose goal is to one-day own a studio will benefit from constantly seeing the visual representation of her studio. The subconscious mind picks up everything no matter how subtle, and every time she glimpses “her studio”, the subconscious mind will reaffirm that intention to have that, and will work to bring it about. Once the intention has been set, just seeing your desired image can and will mentally and emotionally take you to that place. The goal is to go to that reality; to that vibration, and “be in it”, every time you see it.
     Imagination is where you can truly let loose and be creative! Because the thought plane proceeds the physical plane (everything is imagined first) you have to imagine living out your visions in thought. To do this simply pick a time (or several) each day to sit comfortably in front of your vision board. Relax and clear your mind of worries. Now focus on one image and imagine with as much realism as you can, having what the image is. For example, your first image is a roller coaster that represents visiting an amusement park you’ve always wanted to visit. You might imagine holding your ticket as you walk to the gate, buckling yourself into that roller coaster and feeling the carts began to move. This process should be fun and entertaining and not feel at all like work (these things are what you desire after all). Fantasize for some time on each picture and try to actually create the feeling within you of actually having the experience. Do not limit your imagination, be consistent and creative. I would recommend at least two ten minute sessions a day; perhaps to began the day and before ending it.
     To recap, remember that seeing the vision now and creating the feeling of already having it, are the driving forces behind using a vision board to attract and manifest. Make it your own, have fun, and I wish you happy manifesting!
                                                           –Javis White of Seekers House.
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Death in a Dream; What Does it Mean?

In Dreams & Astral, Mind Power, Motivational, Self Help on August 20, 2012 at 9:06 pm

As someone who has had more than his fair share of death related dreams, I know how confusing this kind of experience can be without a proper understanding. Most people will have dreams of this nature several times during their life. Much like the first one I remember, these dreams can be quite innocent, where death comes by accident to some vague, unfamiliar character. While on the other hand, the deaths may be fairly violent or gruesome, and may actually happen to yourself or a loved one. Either way, I would encourage you not to panic or become alarmed in these situations. Seldom is a dream a realistic representation of what we should expect in our waking lives. Dreams speak to us in a different kind of language.

     Dreams of all kinds and variety have a place and function in our lives. While I personally don’t believe they are to be taken literally, I would do a great disservice to deny the relevancy of dreams to our everyday life. Like many of the dream experts on the scene, I believe dreams speak to us more on a fundamental level through the use of symbols and allegory. This would begin to explain the seemingly endless variety of strange, fanciful and often completely unrelated events that take place in the dream world.

     Death in dreams usually symbolize some sort of change in our lives. This change could be something at present, or a change that our subconscious mind is anticipating. It’s not likely that causing death in a dream is a indication of suppressed wrath, but this is actually possible. Here, we’ll address the symbol of death as what it means for majority of people. If you believe that man is more than the physical, and will one day die by transcending from the body, you have some understanding of this symbol. The ancients knew that physical death was not the end, but merely transcending into another reality. Death is the ultimate change and our minds use this allegory to represent change on a smaller scale.

We must bear in mind that our dreams are generally about us. Everyone there is inside of you. Even if they do reveal things about others, they tend to have some sort of personal connection to you when (and if) they are deciphered. For instance, the death of someone unknown who was not murdered can symbolize a more subtle change around you or in your close environment. A dream with people you know dying is more internal in nature. These people probably represent different aspects of yourself. The qualities you associate to the character of the dying person may reflect a change in that same aspect of yourself. Dreams of you murdering are also extremely useful, as this may be the result of you consciously changing yourself; hopefully for the better.

Remember, you will always be the best person who could possibly determine  exactly what your dreams mean to your life. I only attempt to shed light on some commonly held ideas for you to play with.  If we are at all similar, perhaps you welcome regular change because you regularly seek information and practices to purposely bring about positive life changes. Hopefully next time you awake from a dream with the reaper, you’ll now have the tools to arrive at a deeper understanding of self. It may sound odd, but a night of “bloody murder” can really clarify your life in the morning.

Javis White of Seekers House. Books that Empower… Thanks for reading.

Patience During Progress

In Self Help on July 16, 2012 at 10:46 pm

Work With Time, Not Against It.

Let’s face it. Everything takes time. Although burritos and breakfast pastries may go from frozen to piping hot in a matter of minutes, the more meaningful and long lasting aspects of life may often take months, years or even decades to realize. How do you deal with this time of waiting?  I have always personally found it tragic to see people abandon and rationalize their dreams aways after realizing it may take some time to bring them to fruition. While talking to a friend one day, a theory developed that put words to how I see this time it takes to do a certain thing. We will call this theory the concept of, “Arriving Regardless” and it may greatly help you develop patience and even embrace tackling that time consuming project needed to reach your highest potential.

Let’s explain and explore the theory of, “Arriving Regardless” and exactly what it means to you. It’s actually so simple you already instinctively know it, but may not have ever considered it in this light. You arriving regardless is what happens to you and me everyday, just in regard to time. In other words, regardless as to what you did in the last ten years you arrived to this date in time that you are now reading this article. Ever hear anyone say; “I wish I had invested in that company 15 years ago?” Or, “I wish I decided to go to school 5 years ago. I would have been done by now!” These people understand the concept. They realized that time passed regardless as to how they felt about it, or what they did with it.

Not to be rude, but who cares if it takes you time to prepare? Despite what you say or do that time will pass regardless; after it does, you will either be prepared or unprepared. Let’s say you are 42 and would like to write a book containing a summary of your knowledge for all the world to read. You feel a calling to do this for humanity’s sake and your friends tell you constantly you should have your own book. After talking with a publisher, let’s say you find out it takes on average 3 years to write a book and get it published. So what!? 3 years is far from instant, but in 3 years you WILL be 45; and you can either be 45 with a book, or be 45 without a book. You will arrive to a point in the future exactly 3 years from now regardless of what choice is made.

Now that we understand that time waits for no man or woman, what stops you from starting to do what you need to be doing? In a lot of cases it can even be quite embarrassing to admit that we have been putting something off for so long that it could have already been done one or two times over. Have no worries though because you can always start now. In fact, why not start now? No other moment is within our control except for now! Patience pays off big time when it comes to diligence and focused effort . Let’s spend this and all moments in activities that we will soon be proud we did. Remember, this time too shall pass.

Javis White of Seekers House. Books that Empower… Thanks for reading.