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Get Nervous. It’s Good for the soul.

In Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help, Uncategorized on September 1, 2013 at 1:56 pm

When was the last time you felt nervous? I mean truly nervous? Do you remember? Was it recent? Perhaps you have to go back a few years, or even to childhood. Maybe it was your first dance performance or solo in church. Maybe it was standing up to a bully or talking to a girl or boy that you liked. I specifically asked about childhood because that’s naturally the time in which most things are new to us. These new and often exciting experiences call for us to go beyond our comfort zones resulting in feelings of nervousness. But why would we want to be nervous? Why should we want this feeling?

The reason you may want to feel nervous from time to time is quite simple. In fact, I bet you already know it. First however, I feel I must clarify what nervousness is and is not. Nervous (as I use it here) is not the same as worry or anxiety. Those feelings are fear based and are usually associated with thoughts of dread concerning future events. Fear based emotions always deal with the negative views of what we don’t want, don’t desire and don’t wish to experience. This is not nervousness. Nervousness is the uneasy feeling you get when you start to actually and actively approach the things in life that you want, desire and wish to experience.

So if you haven’t figured it out yet, we love nervousness because nervousness is a side effect of purposely expanding your life into new realms of possibility. This is the same as growth. This is the same as living. Whenever a creature ceases to grow, at that very moment it begins to die. If you haven’t felt nervous in the last 2 years, 12 years, or 20 years, then that is most likely the point where you stopped living and began the downward descent into stagnation. If it’s on your heart I encourage you this day to enter that contest, sign up for those lessons, go talk to that person, or do whatever you know you want to do. Win, lose or draw you will be living again. The last thing you want at your death bed is the regret of the meaningful things that you wish you had done. Get nervous. It’s good for the soul.

  Thanks for reading   –Javis White of Seekers House.

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Expert Advice Can Drive You Crazy!

In Metaphysics, Mind Power, Motivational, Philosophy, Religion, Self Help, Uncategorized on June 28, 2013 at 11:51 pm

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In America, many of us believe that if a person has a “PhD” behind his or her name or a “Dr.” in front of it, they’re an expert. An expert in what you may ask? Well in anything… It’s frowned upon to disobey the doctor. In school you will be exiled for questioning the accuracy of a PhD’s version of history, the basis of the PhD composed curriculum or even the lunch items served as determined by a select group of nutrition PhDs.
Well, what’s wrong with all of these doctor and “expert” recommendations? After all, don’t they know more than us? Shouldn’t we trust them to tell us what to eat? Shouldn’t we drink fluoride in our tap water because they say it’s good for us? And shouldn’t we believe Columbus discovered a continent with millions of people already living on it and evidence of visits from other cultures? Okay yeah, I’m joking a bit with the last one… Well, sort of. Having worked many years in the construction sciences, I have several friends with PhD’s in the civil engineering and geotechnical fields. I would call them in a heartbeat if I needed to know the specific gravity of a 4000 pound per sq. inch slab core. But I’m not fond of calling “experts” to tell me how to live my life and to blindly follow. In the technical design of a building, the numbers either work, or a wall starts to crack. Either way, the proof is obvious and no one usually gets hurt. When it comes to people telling you what to do with your life however, the results may not be obvious, and you’re always the one that stands to get hurt. Do you remember doctors in the 1950’s advertising for cigarettes which they then considered safe? (I’ve even heard stories from older men of how the doctor would examine them with a lit cigarette in his mouth…)
My point is that experts have their place. The information they provide can be extremely useful on the path to being knowledgeable to make our own decisions that work for us. We can allow expert advice to drive us crazy when we don’t understand that not all advice works for everyone, and not all of this advice is accurate and without bias. This is easily proven when you look at the fact that experts often times don’t agree with other experts on the same subject. Even getting a second option from another physician can yield two completely different medical diagnoses. Experts debate each other regularly, challenge each other, and some even disprove and denounce their own long held beliefs.
It’s okay to think, question and challenge. I often find that the best way to make informed decisions is to consider the most obvious popular advice, then find and study several findings that state the exact opposite or something completely different. You will usually end up with a much more complete and balanced view. For example, I grew up eating and drinking a lot of dairy. Back when I drunk cow’s milk my body suffered and did not handle it well. Yet still the “experts” who created the food pyramid recommended I drink a glass with every meal. If I blindly took their advice instead of doing my own additional research, I would have never known that people can live well past one hundred healthy years without drinking milk from an animal. I would have needlessly suffered and probably would have been clearing out rooms left and right (if you know what I mean).
Frankly, I don’t know how we got so comfortable relying on other people tell us what to do. How much of this just stems from the laziness of not wanting to do what it takes to gain knowledge (i.e. research) ourselves? How much of it is a fear of challenging authority that was deeply ingrained in us from childhood by our governments, religious institutions and schools? And who benefits the most from all of this expect advice anyway? It almost seems to be people, groups and agencies in every direction telling us what to do and not to do. It is difficult for me to believe that these groups all have my best interest at heart and not the best interest of their wallets and personal agendas.
With any advice however, a red flag should pop up around anyone who desires to plant a seed of fear in you to get you to do what they tell you to do. Government agencies, news outlets, and many religious sects have long been experts at these kinds of scare tactics. Remember however that installing fear and nurturing ignorance is the recipe for control. The more personal knowledge you have pertaining to important life issues the more freedom you will experience.
You were born with a brain for a reason. Do you really believe it was to have someone else do all of your thinking? Clear rational thought and consideration leads to better decisions than those made quickly in the midst of fear and panic. Let us stop taking everything we watch on television or read in a magazine as the gospel truth. This is indeed the quickest way to drive yourself crazy.

Javis White of Seekers House. Thanks for reading.

Dirty Words… (Like Can’t)

In Motivational, Uncategorized on July 31, 2012 at 12:52 am
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Can’t is a dirty word. In my opinion it should never be used in the presence of women and children. Teachers should tear it from spelling books and pastors should consider it a sin. Sailors should say it no louder than a whisper. Motor cycle gangsters should blush at the very thought of it.

The true problem with can’t, is that it’s more than just a word to many. Today can’t is a lifestyle and a philosophy. Can’t is a position, a stance, a mindset, a craft to practice, and the means to a pathetic end.
The physical manifestation of can’t is equal to shooting one’s self in the foot at the starting line of a race. Winning is no longer possible once you destroy all hope of forward progress. The people who inhabit self created worlds of limitation are destined to forever live a lowly existence under those who chose to be limitless.

Our minds are our only limit. What we tell ourselves is all that matters. Whoever planted and watered the seed of can’t in you was only reflecting the limits they feel within themselves. Do yourself a favor today and scratch can’t from your dictionary. Remove the vulgar word from your speech and don’t allow anyone else to curse you with it. You can do whatever you focus your energy to do. You can do the impossible. 

You can do without can’t. 

 

Thanks for Reading -Javis White Seeker’sHouse.com