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When Babies Fall Down

In Inspirational, Motivational, Philosophy on October 1, 2013 at 12:06 am

Since having a child, I’m not sure if he’s learned more from me or me from him. Two weeks after his first birthday he’s making it around the house by either crawling or walking with the aid of whatever furniture is nearby. Earlier today he and I were in my office room. I took a break and pulled him from his bouncer to let him explore and play. After we shared a few laughs he crawled toward the desk, grabbed ahold and balanced himself to his feet. In his excitement he turned around toward the bouncer and began to move in its direction. He quickly lost balance and fell on his butt. Whenever he falls I am sure to not make a big deal of it and I let him recover on his own (if he’s not hurt of course). This time I observed his response a little closer than usual out of pure curiosity. What profound lessons I find in many of his most innocence basic actions. When he fell (within arm’s reach of me) he instinctively knew what to do. After the initial shock of the fall was absorbed by his diaper padded baby butt, he tensed his body to keep from falling completely flat while balancing out a stable seated position. He then immediately reached for the desk that he was last holding, grabbed it and quickly rose back to his feet.

How powerful is this simple act that he’ll never remember? We all fall. The question is what do we do after the initial shock? The first thing he did was to stop the fall from progressing with all the power he had. He didn’t give up and allow himself to end up flat and motionless. In fact he never stopped moving. I also found it interesting that my son did not look to me for help. He paid me no attention and did not wait to be rescued. Without time to think he grabbed a hold of the last thing he knew to be solid. No time was wasted crying, complaining about being on his butt or blaming his feeble legs for failing him. He didn’t pout to gain pity from anyone or accept the fallen position as final. He just got back up and continued to focus on where he was trying to go in the first place.

                                       

                                        Thanks for reading   –Javis White of Seekers House.

Inspiration or Excuse?

In Inspirational, Metaphysics, Mind Power, Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help on September 8, 2013 at 5:21 pm

 

     Today I received a call from a close friend of mine named Shawn. During our conversion he revealed to me some unpleasant circumstances that have arisen in his life recently taking him by surprise. We discussed several different ways to view the situation as well as exploring the metaphysics involved. At one point, my friend said to me that years ago he would have used this situation as an excuse. 
     Most people have goals, dreams, and experiences they would like to see become reality. Often times what stands in between themselves and what they want are excuses. As we spoke a man came to mind whose story inspired me since I first read his book, “The Pursuit of Happyness”. This man’s name is Chris Gardner and he is currently the multimillionaire CEO of Gardner Rich & Co. At any giving time in his journey to become a world-class investment manager he could have given in. He could have chosen any excuse, such as being unemployed, having no schooling, being the only minority, being a single parent, or being homeless and having sleep in public restrooms at night with his young son. But instead of using his unfortunate situations as excuses, Mr. Gardner harvested the energy of them and used it as his motivation to succeed over the fierce competition.
     We must realize that we have a choice. The most important part of any situation is how we react to it, learn from it or overcome it. We all go through unpleasant situations. Some of us undergo poverty, abandonment, sexual abuse, belittling, traumatic events, racism, bigotry, and discrimination. Can I just say “that’s life”? Rest assured that you are not the only one going through something. However, you are the only one that can take your misfortune and use it as a reason to grow, become something better, break harmful family cycles, assist others and provide solutions. So when it’s all said and done, what is your decision; inspiration or excuse? 
Thanks for reading -Javis White of Seeker’s House

 

Get Nervous. It’s Good for the soul.

In Motivational, Philosophy, Self Help, Uncategorized on September 1, 2013 at 1:56 pm

When was the last time you felt nervous? I mean truly nervous? Do you remember? Was it recent? Perhaps you have to go back a few years, or even to childhood. Maybe it was your first dance performance or solo in church. Maybe it was standing up to a bully or talking to a girl or boy that you liked. I specifically asked about childhood because that’s naturally the time in which most things are new to us. These new and often exciting experiences call for us to go beyond our comfort zones resulting in feelings of nervousness. But why would we want to be nervous? Why should we want this feeling?

The reason you may want to feel nervous from time to time is quite simple. In fact, I bet you already know it. First however, I feel I must clarify what nervousness is and is not. Nervous (as I use it here) is not the same as worry or anxiety. Those feelings are fear based and are usually associated with thoughts of dread concerning future events. Fear based emotions always deal with the negative views of what we don’t want, don’t desire and don’t wish to experience. This is not nervousness. Nervousness is the uneasy feeling you get when you start to actually and actively approach the things in life that you want, desire and wish to experience.

So if you haven’t figured it out yet, we love nervousness because nervousness is a side effect of purposely expanding your life into new realms of possibility. This is the same as growth. This is the same as living. Whenever a creature ceases to grow, at that very moment it begins to die. If you haven’t felt nervous in the last 2 years, 12 years, or 20 years, then that is most likely the point where you stopped living and began the downward descent into stagnation. If it’s on your heart I encourage you this day to enter that contest, sign up for those lessons, go talk to that person, or do whatever you know you want to do. Win, lose or draw you will be living again. The last thing you want at your death bed is the regret of the meaningful things that you wish you had done. Get nervous. It’s good for the soul.

  Thanks for reading   –Javis White of Seekers House.